Thank you for taking the time to check out my website.

Finding and working with a therapist is one of the most significant personal investments you will make for your well being.  Researching a therapist helps you make the best choice.

I encourage you to explore my website and contact me with any questions.

I’m Richard Pino, a mental health therapist providing counseling for men in Austin, Texas.  

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  I work exclusively with smart, motivated men, such as yourself.

All men excel in some areas and struggle in others.  We can maximize your strengths and develop solutions to reach your goal.

I too have experienced anxiety and uncertainty with personal and relationship counseling.  I didn’t want to lose my wife and family.  I wanted my self-respect back.

If your relationship has reached a critical point, our individual men’s therapy and couples counseling services in Austin can assist you with getting your relationship headed in the right direction.

Is your wife or girlfriend telling you that you have a problem or that you are the problem, that you aren’t “connecting” with her?   You can’t figure it out and that leaves you angry and frustrated.  You’re thinking your relationship has worsened and you want to stop your life from going downhill.

Or, you’re feeling disconnected and considering divorce.

You want to talk to someone who won’t judge you or tell you what you should do.  You want to clarify your thinking and get back to how your relationship was in the past.  Or, you may be doubting that you want to stay in the relationship.

You may be under so much pressure that it’s affecting your job.  You can’t focus and you’re worried if things get any worse, you’ll ruin what you’ve worked so hard for.

Its common for men and couples to put off seeing a therapist  for way too long.  Men often believe their relationship problems will work themselves out.  They disregard the issues or shut down and don’t address the greater problems. Many men prefer a male men’s therapist because they feel more comfortable talking about men’s issues to someone of their own gender.

Your situation may have you feeling:

  • Irritated
  • Held up
  • Confused
  • Powerless
  • Negative
  • Angry
  • Anxious

But, you really want to work on your relationship.  You realize it’s not hopeless and you want to make an effort to restore it before you decide to move on.  You value what you have built together and you want to keep it and you realize you can’t do it without professional insight.  You want anger management skills for your anger issues.

Your happiness–and hers–are most important. You want to restore the fun and passion of your time together.  You’ve thought about counseling for a time but you haven’t done anything yet.  Or, you’ve tried counseling and you’ve made some progress but it wasn’t enough, you weren’t ready for it or it wasn’t a good fit for you.

I want to help you work your way through your uncertainty and indecision.  I’m a men’s counselor who specializes in working with men and their partners.  I help those who are having relationship difficulties to increase their happiness, gain clarity and passion.

With individual men’s counseling, I help you recognize ways to relate better to your wife or girlfriend.  You’ll feel better and have less anxiety and pressure.  Your partner will be happier and so will you.

In couples counseling, I’ll help you identify what needs attention and how to best deal with the issues to reduce relationship conflict and make it more satisfying for both of you.

Find out how individual counseling or relationship therapy can support you.

What are men saying about their counseling experience? 

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2324 East Cesar Chavez Street
Austin, TX 78702
Servicing zip codes 78701(Warehouse District), 78702 (East Austin), 78703 (Downtown)

About

I not only do therapy, I built my life with it.

I’ve accomplished a ton in my 55 years. I’ve done a great job in my marriage, with my boys and overcome a dysfunctional upbringing.

It hasn’t come easy.

As a licensed therapist, I work with you to refine your life, to get through the challenge you face.

As a fellow man, I help you make educated decisions about your masculine journey and guide you in planning your way to get where you want to be.

It’s never been harder to be a man than now.  Many men have met the challenge head on and have sought out a professional therapist.

How I can help you

My goal is to help you stop worrying about your life, your relationship and help you enjoy life more.  I help you be a better you.  I help you find solutions and support the issues you face as a man.

I have worked with men of different ages and cultures.  Each man was more than just part of a therapist/client arrangement.

These were working partnerships unique to each man, unique to each challenge each man faced.

Because each man has a different story and goal, so does my work.  Some clients are struggling with a new or established marriage, others are battling the effects of past relationships, an addiction, a traumatic history or a mixture of all these.

My passion is to help each man, not only make his life the best it can be, but to help him learn new skills that he can use immediately to get his life under control.   It’s to be there for him like another man was there for me.

I’m an individual and couples counselor who specializes in working with men and their female partners.  I assist men, their spouses or girlfriends who are wrestling with their relationship.  I help men and couples increase their connection, sexual satisfaction and closeness.

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2324 East Cesar Chavez Street

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Servicing zip codes 78701 (Warehouse District), 78702 (East Austin), 78703 (Downtown)

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Therapy Isn’t For You

Though I’ve been in counseling and work as a therapist, I recently had a breakthrough:

Therapy isn’t for you.

Don’t jump to conclusions and click away.  Read on.

I had a client who first saw a therapist at 18 years old.  He and therapy weren’t a good mix. He struggled for years and never reconsidered therapy.  He was too caught up in figuring life out on his own—his wife, his marriage, his children and the blows life had dealt him—until he “hit a wall”.

I strongly recommend you get to therapy before you “hit a wall”.  Masculinity and counseling shouldn’t clash. Kind of like steak and potatoes-they go so much better together.

But, my client went back to therapy because he had no choice.  He wanted to keep his family.  Still, his anger was between him and getting what he wanted. Mixed with his anger was fear and anxiety.

He told me the closer he got to his appointment with me, the more emasculated he felt.  Was he ready to go through counseling again? Did he make the right decision? Was I the right therapist? Would I actually be able to help him?

Then, a momentous meeting happened.  After a few visits, my client asked me if I had ever experienced what he was going through.

I told him I had.

He asked about details, so I explained how I never experienced my father’s approval either and how that influenced my life.

“How did you get over it?” he asked.

“Well, I’m not over it; I work on it every day.  It has gotten easier.”

“I’ve never known easy.  I’ve only known an anger, that up to now, I haven’t been able to understand, like I’ve been carrying around this ball of rage in my chest. I feel like an angry little boy who’s mad at his daddy.  What do you call that?”

“Daddy issues.  Most of us have them.”

“Wow.  I feel like I can finally see what I’m so pissed off about.  My family will be glad to hear about that.  They’ve always told me that I don’t care about anyone but myself.  I’ve been so selfish for many years—just like my dad.  I hated that in him.  I really don’t want to be that way but I’m just like my dad, like that.  You know, the reason I came to see you was to get my family off my back, to prove them wrong about therapy.”

In a moment of inspiration, I couldn’t believe the words that come out of my mouth:

“You may realize you’ve been selfish and you may think therapy is about you but it more about your family—therapy isn’t for you, it’s about your family.  Like you said, you came here to make someone else happy.  It’s about your wife, your kids and your grandkids.  Who else do you want setting the example?  Therapy isn’t about you.  It’s about the people you love.”

We’ve seen father-son relationships portrayed in movies—Gladiator, The Shining, Star Wars, Game of Thrones—that illustrate how the relationships work—or don’t work.

We all long for a father that gives us an example, a foundation, a hope.  We want to be like our fathers, either by default or by intention.

They influence our lives and set us on the path that we sometimes don’t choose.  We inherit their battles, weaknesses, failures.

Their hopes and victories are short-lived and we are left struggling for something to hold onto.

Do I described all men?  I’m sure not.  Still, this resonates with many.

My response jolted my client.  I took a chance and said something that he didn’t expect of me.

A good therapist knows how important trust is in a therapeutic relationship.

Men are protectors and providers but when daddy issues get in the way, it changes them.

It’s never about you.

Therapy is about the persons we love.  It’s about their hungers, their necessities, their expectations, and hopes.

When a man doesn’t have that foundation, he becomes selfish, looking for what he needs, not finding it, he fills that space with anger.

When he has what he needs, he doesn’t look for what he can get, but for what he can give.

I’ve seen men love selflessly.  For many years my heart longed for that kind of love. Instead, I was afraid and jealous of those men.

I can’t remember how many times I promised myself to do better for my wife and sons.

When I went to therapy, the communication between me and my therapist was almost too much to bear.  Yet, I needed it and it scared the crap out of me.

I’ve kept this unforgettable experience in mind and use it in my sessions.  That’s how I had my breakthrough.

You may be divorced, separated, married, engaged, currently single or decidedly single.  Either way, therapy isn’t for you.  It’s about those you love.

But wait!

The progress you make in therapy provides those you love with what they want.

It also provides you with what you want.

Therapy isn’t about you.  It’s about them.

Check out my FAQ here.

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2324 East Cesar Chavez Street
Austin, TX  78702
Servicing zip codes 78701 (Warehouse District), 78702 (East Austin), 78703 (Downtown)

Services

Bottom Line?  You’ll Function Better

Counseling Men in Relationships

  • Increase your communication skills with your significant other
  • Understand yourself better
  • Build a more fulfilling relationship
  • Learn how to make your spouse happier
  • Identify effective ways to handle relationship struggles such as infidelity, family conflict or addiction
  • Increase your sexual satisfaction
  • Decrease your frustration
  • Work through infidelity
  • Get past your mixed feelings
  • Get past hurts

Counseling for Single Men

  • Process past problems
  • Create a prosperous relationship with yourself and others
  • Recover from past relationship mistakes and move forward with your life
  • Increase your confidence
  • Be better prepared
  • Find answers
  • Increase your satisfaction with life

 Teen/Adult ADD

  • Work through your sense of underachievement
  • Develop your organizational skills
  • Resolve frustrations with past failures
  • Deal with resentment
  • Increase you confidence in yourself and relationships

Drug/Behavior Addiction Counseling

  • Work through how your choices have affected you, your family and others
  • Know yourself better and take action towards increasing your control over the drug or behavior
  • Process irritations and triggers differently
  • Gain coping skills to increase your ability to not repeat the behavior
  • Identify goals, grow your positive attitude and get results

Anger/Stress Management

  • Learn skills to reduce and handle stress
  • Process and express your anger in better ways
  • Communicate your needs without offending, blaming or losing control
  • Keep your relationships and make others comfortable being around you

Depression Counseling

  • Improve ways to manage depression
  • Process the causes of your depression and get your life back
  • Learn how to cut yourself some slack
  • Increase your hope for your future
  • Be understood

Anxiety Counseling

  • Realize the benefits of your courage and dedication
  • Gain clear thinking skills and take charge of your life
  • Increase your self-awareness and recognize opportunities
  • Live in the moment and get more rest
  • Handle family conflicts and performance problems
  • Validate your experiences as a man

Signs you may benefit from counseling:

  • Increased distance from your relationships or from your true self
  • Continual conflict over serious and/or trivial things
  • A pervasive unhappiness
  • You’re drinking more
  • No sex:  erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation
  • You or your partner want to divorce but you’re undecided about it
  • Ignoring problems
  • Infidelity
  • You notice a pattern with these things

As a counselor, I’m trained and experienced in helping men solve these kind of problems.

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2324 East Cesar Chavez Street
Austin, TX  78702
Servicing zip codes 78701 (Warehouse District), 78702 (East Austin), 78703 (Downtown)

FAQ

What happens when I first meet you?

During the first meeting, I’ll gather information about you.  We’ll get to know each other and build trust.   If you’re uneasy about it, that’s normal.  You’ll tell your story and identify what you want to work on and we’ll create a plan of action.

Does going to counseling mean I’m weak?

No. Like professional athletes, counseling is like coaching. Going to counseling means you’re having normal reactions to life’s events.  It can be a current or past event that needs to be worked on.  Receiving counseling is a sign of assertiveness, of taking control.  It’s getting clarity and a better understanding of yourself, your situation and ways to address your challenge. It’s about taking charge of your life.  Therapy give you tools, insight and direction to achieving your goals.

Am I mentally ill if I need counseling? 

No.  A diagnosis is a description of symptoms, not an illness.  If you want to submit your claim to your insurance, you would need a diagnosis.  There are other risks involved in using insurance.  That’s the next question.

Will my insurance pay for my counseling?

That depends on your insurance plan coverage details.  The majority of men who see me do not use their insurance.   I can provide you with a copy of your bill for you to submit to your insurance company for possible reimbursement.  Often, a man’s insurance policy has a high deductible and he will still pay out-of-pocket until he meets it and then insurance will assist.  (This is the type of insurance I have.)

Having a mental disorder diagnosis listed with your insurance company follows you throughout your life and makes it hard to get additional insurance coverage.  I want to help you, not to possibly cause you problems later because of a “mental disorder diagnosis”.

Currently, I do not work with any insurance companies.  But I can provide you with a receipt if you want to submit it to your insurance company for reimbursement.

If you want a definite answer about how your insurance company handles an out-of-network visit, call you insurance company and ask them this question:  “What do you reimburse for out-of-network mental health benefits?” Answers will vary based upon insurance company and the insurance plan you have.

Why would I see you if I have insurance?

The men who choose to see me and not use their insurance do so for important reasons:

  • They have worked out with their accountant to write off their sessions with me as coaching, education or training, so they get the tax write-off.
  • They don’t want their insurance to be notified they are in counseling.
  • They don’t want a formal mental disorder diagnosis.
  • They want to see me in private because they don’t want their spouse or employer to know.
  • They want to completely control their mental health records and don’t want them online.
  • They use their Flexible Spending Account or Health Savings Account and want to use tax-free funds.
  • They want to see a men’s specialist and want to be free to choose who they see
  • They don’t like the therapists on their insurance panel
  • They don’t like being confined to who their insurance company tells them they can see.
  • Their insurance plan reimburses them a certain amount for out-of-pocket/out-of-network mental health visits.

How much information do I need to tell you?

The therapist/client relationship is unique.  You have nothing to prove to me and I’m not appointed as judge.  By law, everything discussed in session is held in strict confidence to protect your privacy.  This encourages openness and honesty allowing us to work together on problems, identify opportunities and your personal strengths.  It helps me understand you better.  Exceptions to confidentiality are when you intend to hurt yourself, another or if there is child abuse.

How many times do I need to see you?

Each man’s situation is different.  Most see me weekly.  After a few sessions, we meet bi-weekly, then monthly.  As each man’s progress is different, we can discuss your situation and plan accordingly.  Therapy is about getting you out of therapy as quickly and effectively as possible.

How do you do therapy?

My sessions are 60 minutes.  I use various treatment models and will discuss each with you.  We’ll identify the approach you’re comfortable with, having the most potential for results.  Each time we meet, I do a brief outcome measure to gauge your progress since our last meeting.  At the end of each session, I’ll get feedback from you to rate the quality of our work , whether what we are doing is on target with what you want to accomplish and make necessary adjustments.  The intention is to make sure you are receiving the service you want, to make sure you are heard and respected. I’ll make sure my approach meets your expectations and is customized to your specific situation.

Why should I choose you over other therapists?

I can only speak for my service and Texas Men’s Therapy.  I do not compare myself to competitors simply because I don’t see them as competitors.  I don’t mean that in an arrogant way, I simply believe I serve a different audience.  I stand by different values.  This is not to say that my competitor’s values are bad, they’re just different.

Why do you work only with men?

I do my best work with men.  When a man chooses to see me, he does so for various reasons:

  • He trusts me, we “click”.
  • He believes another man can understand his problems better.
  • He may not be comfortable sharing personal information with a female therapist.
  • He may have mom issues and a female trying to help does not sit right with him.
  • He believes another man’s perspective is best for his situation.
  • He’s had a bad experience with a female therapist.
  • He finds it hard to trust women.
  • He’s more comfortable talking to a male therapist about his sexual problems.
  • He thinks men are better problem-solvers than women.

How soon will I get results?

Every man is different as are his results.  Every situation is different but results depend largely on how committed you are to solving your problem and using what you learn.  I have had clients tell me they have realized a change after one session.  More challenging problems require more time.

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2324 East Cesar Chavez Street

Austin, TX  78702

Servicing zip codes 78701 (Warehouse District), 78702 (East Austin), 78703 (Downtown)

Testimonials

What was your situation before you started meeting with Richard?

“I underestimated counseling.  When I first spoke to Richard, he helped me realize that what made it hard was to admit wanting counseling and then following through.”

“I was having some anger problems and my ADD added to my anger.  I felt out of control and I got to the point where even the littlest thing would set me off.  I had even moved out of my house into an apartment for a week to cool off.  That’s when I realized I needed professional help.”

“My wife and I had been arguing.  She was wanting to start an open marriage.  I couldn’t believe it.  I thought there was something wrong with me.”

“Ever since I was a boy, I had to be right all the time.  I was very independent and I didn’t care about how other people saw me or what they thought.  I’m getting married soon.  My fiancé and I argue a lot.  She tells me that I’m stubborn and that she is having second thoughts about marrying me.”

“My addiction was ruining my family.”

“I was working through anxiety, depression, worry and control of alcohol, to a degree, and it wasn’t going well.  It was affecting my marriage, increasing my drinking and my ability to concentrate at work.  I’ve been to counseling in the past when I was younger and when I was in my first marriage.  I also have some baggage from a trauma.”

What was the reason you contacted him?

“My fiancé contacted him because I wouldn’t.  I thought I didn’t need counseling and that it was my fiancé who had the problem.  I love my fiancé and I swallowed my pride.  I think I did it to prove her wrong.”

“I was looking for the right fit to have someone help me figure out the issues I constantly try to push back and forget.  I had tried marriage counseling but I wasn’t ready for it then.  I decided I was ready when I couldn’t push back anymore.”

“Something inside me knew my marriage needed help.  My wife comes from a traumatic background, so I went with her to help her but I was also helped through this situation.”

“I was having some serious questions about my life and what I had worked for.  I didn’t know where I was going and what I wanted after losing my wife.  I couldn’t think straight.”

What were your concerns about counseling?

“I’m a professional.  To me, counseling was a sign that I was weak, that I was less than a man.  I was forced into manhood because my dad left us when I was young.  It became my responsibility to do grown-up duties.  I never asked my dad for help with anything, so why should I ask a stranger?”

“I felt like going to see the counselor was like going to the principal’s office.  I was being punished.”

“I felt like I was up against a wall and I had no other choice.  I didn’t go willingly.  I didn’t think talking about my personal life would help. I felt it was none of anyone’s business.”

What results did you get?

“I worked my way through my ambivalence about staying in my marriage.  I kept my self-respect through it and learned how my life history has impacted how my life had turned out.  I realized that I should have taken action before I landed at that low point.”

“Counseling was not what I had expected.  Richard and I developed a working alliance quickly, like a pilot/co-pilot sort of thing.  We focused on what I wanted and he gave me some very useful techniques to use in my life.”

“My wife still left me.  It was a horrible divorce. That was the most hurtful thing I’ve experienced but I made it through and now I’m moving on with my life.”

“Patience.  I learned patience with myself.”

“I took control over my situation.”

What did you like most about counseling?

“Meeting with Richard helped me get my story out.  He helped me see what I went through differently.  I wasn’t coping very well.  I made some bad choices for the right reasons. Asking for help didn’t weaken me.  It made me stronger.”

“As a single man, I was having a sort of spiritual crisis.  Richard helped me realize that I was placing too much emphasis on something that really wasn’t that important.  He helped me let things be what they were and focus my energy on something that gave me results.”

“I felt isolated.  I was anxious all the time and depressed.  Now, I try to live my life more balanced.  My home and professional life are much better.  I recommend Richard because he’s conscientious, practical and focuses on solutions.”

“I took the risk and made time to focus on my own needs and my personal growth.”

“I got back the respect I had lost at home and I can function better at work.”

“These guys are very special to me.  They reflect my client’s real thoughts.  And whose opinions could be more important to a counselor?”  Richard Pino

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